Haircuts, Lattes & Orgasms: Why You Need to Nourish Your Golden Goose

You’re not lazy.

You’re just exhausted from trying to be the entire village — the provider, the caretaker, the business owner, the cleaner, the emotional load-bearer, the therapist, the cheerleader, and the one who remembers to buy loo roll again.

But what if I told you this isn’t just about burnout — it’s about a belief system that’s quietly killing your magic?

Welcome to the Golden Goose Theory. You're Not Lazy!

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Are You Killing Your Golden Goose?

The Golden Goose Theory is simple:

There’s a part of you that creates. That gives. That loves. That leads. That shines.

And every time you deny her joy, pleasure, and support — you’re slowly starving her.

I used to think I had to wait until I was “successful enough” to get help. That once I made X amount, then I’d outsource. Once I had more time, then I’d rest. But what I’ve learned (the hard way) is that you can’t wait for things to get better to start taking care of yourself. That’s the trap.

In fact, not nourishing yourself is exactly what keeps things stuck.

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What Keeps Us Trapped

This episode was sparked by a simple realisation:

The days I feel most human are the days I get a good haircut, sip a MacDonald’s toffee latte, pay someone to wash my bloody car, and have an orgasm (or three). And yet — for years — I denied myself those things.

Because they felt indulgent.

Because I felt I had to earn them.

Because I thought I should “just get on with it” like other women seemed to.

But those little joys? They matter. They restore you. They refill your cup. They regulate your nervous system. And when your nervous system is nourished — everything works better: your business, your creativity, your relationships, your mood, your sense of self.

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How This Showed Up in My Life

It was the same when I was married — I took on every task, every emotional responsibility, every invisible job — and I thought that made me strong. But it didn’t. It made me resentful, disconnected, and exhausted.

Now, I realise the strongest thing I can do is ask for help.

To scale joy alongside the business.

To say, “No, I don’t need to wait. I need to rest now so I can rise.”

I don’t want to be the martyr anymore. I want to be the woman who’s lit up from the inside because she actually feels supported, sexy, and alive.

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So What Do You Really Want?

If you stripped away the guilt, the conditioning, the shame — what would feel good?

What would your days look like at work, at home, in love, with your kids, with yourself?

Would you:

• Let yourself outsource before you burn out?

• Give yourself permission to feel pleasure on a random Tuesday?

• Reframe “luxury” as emotional survival?

You’re the goose. You lay the golden eggs. And if you want to keep creating beauty in this world, you have to nourish the source.

Plump up that goose, babe.

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This blog was inspired by my latest podcast episode:

“Haircuts, Lattes & Orgasms – The Golden Goose Theory”

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